I have never read anything that describes my chronic pain this well. It’s especially true because you build a higher tolerance to pain, or just become so accustomed to always being in a certain level of pain that you can’t conceive of the idea of not hurting, or that others live their life without hurting constantly in some way.
You don’t talk about how much pain you’re in = You must not be in THAT much pain, why can’t you just work/come out/do things? You look fine.
You talk about how much pain you’re in = All you do is complain, you look fine, it can’t be THAT bad, you just need to get out there and you’ll feel better.